TGIF 3.7 – Bundle of joy

Warning: not for the fainthearted

I am grateful for babies, but above all, I am grateful for epidural. ba

First and foremost, I know its not Friday. Of course, we all can pretend there’s a town or planet where its still Friday, but I just witnessed one of the joys of nature and humankind—the birthing process, and I had to write something.

The more I interact with women, especially pregnant women and women in labor and post partum women, the more I come to appreciate the gift called woman. First and foremost, I think every woman on this earth who has carried a baby in their womb or given birth deserves a lifetime achievement award. If nobody has ever thought to say that to you or present you with one, me, naijagirl is endorsing you for a lifetime achievement award.

Babies are bundle of joy, but the process of them coming to be is not a bundle of joy (in my own opinion)—I almost got traumatized while witnessing one. I came out narrowly missing being traumatized but I gained something from the whole experience. I realized the efforts of mothers and the price they pay for bringing us to life. This must be a time to reflect on Genesis 3 where God was dishing out his punishment to Eve and the rest of the women.

The whole experience had a great impact on me, so much so that when I got out of the room, I sent my mom a text and the following transpired between us.

Me: honey, quick question. Did you do natural birth or did you use epidural?

Mom: there’s no epidural in naija. Ask me if I have ever heard of epidural until I went to OB/GYN clinical

Me: hmmm. That’s torture. Perhaps, your kids need to give you a lifetime achievement award…….(I went on to tell her how I endorse her for the award and how much I appreciate what she did by giving birth to me. I continued by apologizing for my past and present wrongs. I told her how much people don’t know what women go through to bring a baby and yet the kids grow up to be rude and saucy or break their heart.

Mom:I receive all the good prayers, blessings and messages but that’s the joy of it all.

What? What? Joy of what all? The joys of motherhood—seriously, where does that joy come in. I stood near that woman’s bed watching her writhe in pain and all I kept saying to myself was “oh hell no. you want me to go through this? Oh hell no”, that was until I heard she chose to go natural which is why her pains were intensified.

By the grace of God, pain reliever has been manufactured to help relieve the pains of the birthing process but some women still don’t get to use it. They go “natural”, and by that I mean go the whole nine yards through intense pain Either cos of cultural, religious reasons or plain ignorance—perhaps, they weren’t told about It like my mom.

Truly, I don’t see any reason why anyone would decide to feel that pain when you know you can get something for it. Natural or no natural. I think some women chose not to take epidural just cos of “bragging right”. In other words, so, they can say, they went through the birthing process without any medication. I have reasoned like that before, but the more I get older, the more I realize it doesn’t just make any sense. Seriously, 10 years from now, who’s gonna care if you went natural or not—definitely, not me.

Men, appreciate your women. When she’s pregnant and you see all those changes in her, appreciate her the more ‘cos you don’t see those instant changes in your own body. I wish all fathers get to stay in the delivery room to go through the process with the mothers, but since most of them choose not to, you ought to appreciate the woman the most for that experience cos its not easy.

Any woman that insists on going natural, all I can say is “hmmm”. Life is torture on its own, why add more to it, and bragging rights aint gonna look so cute later when you think about it.

I don’t care if all the women in your generation went natural or if you use your wife’s birthing process to brag in the locker room, but any man that insists on the wife going natural, like I have witnessed is a very wicked man, Its just plain cruel.(naijagirl©2009)

As I reflect over these things, it reminds me of a note I read on facebook. It was written by an immature guy to “woman”. In the note, he mentioned how he bargained for a beautiful body but after couple of years, all he sees is a body with stretch marks. To begin with, stretch marks on the stomach of a pregnant woman was one of the first things I saw and said—fathers should always appreciate their baby mama.

I have a friend and the thot of seeing a pregnant woman sends him to an early grave-yet, he wants a house full of kids (12 or more), and because of him and others like him, I have attached a warning label to this post—not for the fainthearted.

Have a wonderful weekend y’all!.

                   My words, my views, my style! Naijagirl©2009

Published in: on October 25, 2009 at 2:59 am  Comments (18)