Naija hook up ridiculously made easy

Have you ever had an aunt/ sister/ cousin/parents/friend try to hook you up with a fellow Nigerian?

        Have you ever had someone contact you ‘cos someone gave them your contact information or recommended you for marriage or relationship? I have had my share of these contacts. I hardly know any of them, although some claim and swear they know every member of my family or know me …..as a kid.

I have decided to put up a little guide line for future “hookers” who are looking for “hookees”

–           You may have only one window of opportunity; only one phone call, only one e-mail, or only one text to make a good impression…..so make good use of it

–          Don’t go round telling people or giving people the impression that there’s something going on between you and the young lady, when/if you haven’t even talked to the girl or received her acceptance.

–          Don’t assume that all you need is to say it and she will agree immediately

–          Don’t mention your net worth on first conversation

–          Be ready for cross questioning

–          Do not put her down….what do you know, you are still a kid? What do you know you are just a woman?……some naija guys have these biased views about naija female population where they assume the only thing they are probably good at is ….cook, clean, make babies…..they assume certain topics are beyond the comprehension of the women, for instance discussion on economic matters, political matter, work/business related issues, sports etc

–          Don’t make assumptions for the lady….she has a head, mind and a mouth; let her speak for herself

–          That she said no to your proposal does not mean she is feeling too big or that she’s a terrible person

–          That a naija lady speaks to you, picks your phone, or pays attention to your conversation…. does not mean she is interested in you or ready to marry you.

–          A lady might like you but she doesn’t like you “like that”. She likes you but not feeling you that way…most guys have a hard time understanding this last piece

      A real man doesn’t need things (bling bling, cars etc) to define him, he defines himself; its unfortunate that our world has become monetized, but even in the midst of it all, there are still ladies who don’t let your things decide for them, rather they look beyond what you have to see if they are ready to settle with you.

           My words, my views, my style! Naijagirl©2009