Nigerians in diaspora

“I love my Nigerian however they have a way of making you feel like you aren’t Nigerian if you haven’t grown up at home or if you don’t speak any dialect”

        Have you ever had this feeling that some Nigerians have a way of making you feel like you aren’t Nigerian just because you did not grow up at home or because you cannot speak any of the dialects? Why do you think this is so?  The comment above was from a well meaning/concerned Nigerian, and it got me thinking after I heard it.

       My take on this is that there is a general misconception of children born outside Nigeria; we see them as kids born with silver spoons with no inkling of the rough side of life. At the same time, we see them as kids without manner and culture hence, our negative response to them. These pre-conceived views may have been via experience or due to the bandwagon effect.

       It could be that the naija guy/lady has stories that any typical naija person would relate with and when such stories are brought up, it flows easily among the people telling it, and when we get into our stories, in all loudness, we tend to forget who’s sitting beside us, and the last thing on our mind is explaining every bit of a story.

       It could be complex on our part; we relate more with people we think have the same background and when we see someone outside that background, we may develop some sort of complex. We may pre-assume that you are high handed or snobbish, and to avoid any embarrassment, we would mind ourselves or ignore you.

        It could also be that we are just acting like any typical naija guy/lady who likes to reveal the flaws, by reminding you that you can’t be naija without being naija. It’s like someone saying “I am American” and yet your accent, intonation and mannerism reveal that you were born in one village in naija.

       Perhaps, we are not the one with the problem. It may be that you already have some bias about us which would make you read meanings into whatever we do. Which means that just like any normal person who walks into a place with different views or language, you would feel uncomfortable and assume anything said is spoken against you. Sometimes, we may be talking about you, some other time; we may just be saying random things that have nothing to do with you. We would not translate cos the gist is juicier in its original language.

What is your own opinion on the way Nigerians born in Nigeria treat and view Nigerians born outside the shores of Nigeria?

               Xoxo..My words, my views, my style! Naijagirl©2009

Published in: on February 19, 2009 at 1:10 am  Comments (4)  

The URI to TrackBack this entry is:

RSS feed for comments on this post.

4 CommentsLeave a comment

  1. This post got me thinking slightly…i think it all boils down to seeing things from different perspective and stereotyping people.
    No two people are alike, i have met Nigerians born outside Nigeria who were well behaved and i have met some who were too standoffish and ill mannered, same goes for kids born in Nigeria
    My reasoning is to treat every human being on a neutral platform and judge them based on who they are and not where they were born or where they come from.
    Thanks for swinging by my space, will be back!

  2. writefreak, it will be awesome if we could take people as they are or “judge” them as them, but……that would probably make us “non human”

    thanks for dropping by

  3. It really gets on my nerves when people do that. my case is a little different. I get called out because i don’t have the typical Nigerian accent. That doesn’t define my “Nigerianess”……. I sometimes do it too though when i meet Nigerians born abroad and they can’t speak there language at all, i don’t think they are not Nigerian i just don’t understand why they can’t speak cuz i believe that if anyone is really interested they will be able to speak even if they never go to Nigeria.

  4. @Naijaprincess….I guess consciously or unconsciously, we do this. I like yur “Nigerianess”…..thanks for stopping by.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: